Prayers for the Deceased

11-25-2018The World in View from a Believer’s PerspectiveFr. Larry Merta

We began the month of November with two masses intended to help us remember the multitude of uncanonized saints and the members of the suffering Church who are deceased and who need our prayers to be delivered from their purgation. We have celebrated these masses at Holy Cross with a special remembrance for our own deceased written in the pages of the memorial book. The Church instructs us to pray for the dead and offers masses and special prayers on behalf of the deceased. All of this is meant, of course, for us to intercede on behalf of those we loved and those that suffer. It is also meant to have us meditate well and often on our own inevitable passing, a moment reserved to God when we will stand before Him in judgment. We should share these beliefs and practices with our children and grandchildren, that they too make pray for us at our passing and not simply say nice things about us at our funeral.


Helpful Holiday Hints for Caregivers

11-25-2018On the Caregiving Journey…

The holidays can be very stressful for everyone including caregivers and care receivers. The Caregiver Alliance provides tips on how to handle holiday preparations and reduce stress. The following are some of their tips:

  • Include your loved one in some of the preparations focusing on his/her strengths.
  • When decorating, try to keep the clutter to a minimum to decrease confusion.


11-18-2018The World in View from a Believer’s PerspectiveFr. Larry Merta

Architectural marvels reveal their grandiose scale when we notice their perspective to something else. I failed to be impressed the first time I walked into St. Peter's Basilica and gazed upon the lofty shapes and forms of the ceiling. Then one of my confreres told me to gently lower my vision to the floor and compare the vaulting against the ant-sized human beings on the far end of the Church. It was that perspective that dropped my jaw in awe.


A Great Resourse can be the Caregiver's Insurance Company

11-11-2018On the Caregiving Journey…

One resource for caregivers that is often overlooked is the care receiver's health care insurance provider. Most of the major health insurance companies provide a variety of resources that can be accessed by caregivers.

  • Need some helpful advice and decision-making support as you care for your loved one?
  • Looking for a registered nurse to conduct an in-person health overview of your loved one?
  • Need someone to assess the safety of your loved one's living arrangements?
  • Looking for a calendar tool to manage your loved one's support and care?
  • Need some help in finding and arranging for community-based programs and services to support your loved one?

Public Faith

11-11-2018The World in View from a Believer’s PerspectiveFr. Larry Merta

Joe and Josie Malakieh are faithful parishioners several months out of the year down here when they're not in Vancouver. I was delighted to stay several days with them enjoying the sights and sounds of the gorgeous countryside. They took me to a scenic overlook of their city, but this group of Buddhist monks got my attention first. Two of the four were sporting camera gear!


The Grief Journey

11-04-2018On the Caregiving Journey…

No two grief journeys are alike; all grief journeys are different. Two individuals grieving the same person, such as a wife grieving the loss of her husband and a daughter grieving the loss of her father (same person), will often experience entirely different journeys based upon their own relationships with the deceased. In addition, a person who has grieved the loss of two or more loved ones will find that each journey was different from the others again based upon each unique relationship. It is not unusual for a person to grieve the loss of one loved one more than the loss of another. It is important to remember this point – that all grief journeys are different – and not make comparisons as a person might think something is wrong because his/her journey is longer or shorter, more stressful or less stressful, or more complicated or less complicated than another person’s journey or the journey traveled for a previous loss. Each journey through grief is as unique as the person who is experiencing it.

Sacrifice for Jesus

11-04-2018The World in View from a Believer’s PerspectiveFr. Larry Merta

Here's a gem of a photo from the 2nd Annual Holy Cross Family Camp this past July near Mormon Lake. I asked for a Cheeto and she did not hesitate to share with me a handful. Such lessons are learned at home. I suspect her happy display of generosity was the fruit of her family experience where the needs of another come before the wants of the self.


Parish Family

10-21-2018The World in View from a Believer’s PerspectiveFr. Larry Merta

I got to know a little more the youngest members of my Parish Family during the Youth Hike to the Dells in Prescott last June. My discovery: the mind is youthful the body is not. They were frolicking the hilltops like newborn calves, running circles around me, getting acquainted with the rapid and heavy breathing of a 50-year-old.


Peaceful Surroundings

10-14-2018The World in View from a Believer’s PerspectiveFr. Larry Merta

Before taking a few days of rest away from Arizona I noticed that my reading habits were not where they should be. I read things more like one has enough time to read headlines. Comprehension and retention were more difficult. So, I decided to go to an easy and pleasant read to help foster the love for reading I once had. I took with me on vacation Fr. Walter Ciszek's With God in Russia. It is his account of spending 23 years in Soviet prisons and labor camps located in one of the harshest climates on earth— Siberia. This Pennsylvania born Jesuit priest came back to the States in a spy swap in 1962.


Prepare to Care: Planning Guide for Families

10-14-2018On the Caregiving Journey…

You, like many other people, may have just learned that your loved one has been diagnosed with a chronic, serious and/or terminal health condition. As the significance of this situation sinks in, you may have also realized that you are now becoming a caregiver possibly facing a long journey. You may be asking yourself, "Where do I start?"